I made it through my FIRST month

I did it!!!! I really did it!!! I didn't call my stylist and ask for the creamy crack, well I didn't think I would I went 8 months without it what's another month...but at any rate, I have completely and I mean completely fallen in love with my curls. Now don't get me wrong I have always loved my hair, whether it's short, long, relaxed, colored, in a ponytail whatever or however it was styled I loved it. I can honestly say I have fallen back in love with my hair again. I love it!!!! I really really do!!!!

My cousin popped my hand today and told me to stop touching my hair, my response-I CAN'T HELP IT!!! Well I really can't. I'm always touching my hair and feeling my curls because I don't think I believe I actually did it, I am NATURAL!!! I read a response today on curlynikki.com where a fellow blogger talked about her love affair with her hair, I could really relate. I'm in love and who would have thought I'd be in love with my hair, I mean really...lol.


In my first month, I haven't had many negative responses from family and friends. My Daddy and his oldest brother both told me my hair was nappy...lol...I laughed at them. My Daddy has never liked for me to cut my hair-EVER! He prefers long hair, not short and that's cool, I can respect that. I think he will just have to take some time and get used to my hair and my curls, not naps :-) My momy's (I spelled it right, that's how I spell it for her because she is so unique) response was PRICELESS I told her I was going to go ahead and cut it, I sent her a picture and we talked about it, but when I finally saw her the next day, she just stood in front of me looking stunned and said I didn't think it was going to look like that, but it's cute. Last week she wanted to put me on punishment because I asked her to braid it..lol. My funniest compliment came from some of my church fam, Jazz singer, was their response...lol..I love them (CORNERSTONE UHC for LIFE). I had more compliments than complaints in these last 30 days and I'm happy about that because boy does it help a lot when you are getting used to something new, when you have family and friends to support you.

I'm looking forward to my one year Nappyversary. I think my BC helped me not only cut off my relaxed ends but my inner inhibitions. I feel like a totally different person. My coworkers have told me recently that I'm looking different these days wearing different colors and jazzing up a bit. Well they better get used to it because this new found JOCEY is here to stay!!!

I combed out the front, my mom was about to braid my hair up...I had a little growth!!!

Close up of my curls!!!! I love them so much :-)

This is where it all started...DAY 1, fresh from the hairdresser and 8 months post relaxer!!!!

Until next time.....

(Top picture: Frohawk with a twist out)

Men and "THEIR" Hair

I must admit, I'm a Facebook junky, I wake up in the morning and check statuses even if I don't change mine. I might wake up in the middle of the night and check a status, well it just so happens that as I do every morning, I was checking Facebook and came across a posting from a male friend of mines and it said something to the effect of "Thanking God ___________________ has done away with that "going natural" nonsense..." I clued in on the "going natural nonsense" why because I'm new to natural and love it. his post goes on to say that no man wants to see naps they want soft relaxed hair....I began to think and then commented. As my day progressed I asked several good men I know one question "How do you feel about natural hair?" Here are some of their comments.

"I think it's nice as long as the lady takes care of it and don't let it do it's own thing."

"If it's a good grain it's a go."

"I love natural hair"

"If your hair is fake I have to skate and that's all I have to say about that"

"That's what chics do when they can't afford to get their hair done.....Just clownin...it's okay on some chics...I don't really dig it though."

My favorite of all responses:

"I $%^&ING LOVE IT. THE NATURAL SMELL, IT DOESN'T ITCH OR IRRITATE ME WHEN I'M BEHIND YOU, NO CHEMICALS. PLUS I CAN PULL IT WHEN I NEED TO."

As you can see from the several post from these few men, it's almost a win-win situation. It's amazing to me how men in general put so much thought into their lady's hair as if they are rocking it themselves. When my man friend saw my hair, his reaction wasn't that he didn't like natural it was the fact I basically went full speed ahead and chopped it off. The last time he saw me it was long and when he saw me a few weeks later it was short and curly. I have gotten compliments from men on my new hair, who didn't really comment I had a relaxer and would get a cute cut and color.

I think the whole "beef" with natural is the way the woman rocks it and we, men and women, have been conditioned to look at hair to be beautiful only if it has a relaxer in it, not if it is naturally kinky or curly.

I say love "YOUR" hair men, your lady may be trying to show you another side of her, a more daring side. Sexy comes from within, not on top of the head. I know many have seen a not so sexy chic but her hair was fried, dyed and laid to the side. It's not about the hair it's about the confidence one exudes when rocking their hair.



Until next next time...

3 weeks after BC

It's been almost three weeks after my Big Chop and I'm still loving my natural and feeling that I don't ever want to go back to that creamy crack bka relaxer. I was asked by a friend of mine who is also transitioning what do I use for my hair. I posted this on Facebook yesterday but decided to add it to my blog today. Here it is, I hope anyone who is out there reading it helps you whether you are on a natural journey or just need good products for your hair.

I use a lot of different things depending on the look I want. I still wash and condition my hair with Mizani. When I do my twist outs, I use Kid Organics Shea Butter with Olive Oil Lotion and Mizani Rose H2O (I mix them together), if I do a wash/wet and go, I use Cantu Leave-in conditioner which has Shea butter and Shea Moisture curl enhancer, I'm not a huge oil sheen person but if I want a little shine I either use cantu shea butter oil sheen or I put my hot six in a spray bottle and sprya that through out my hair. Sometimes I use an olive oil moisturizer cream for my twist as well. I mainly use the kid organics and mizani bc I do more twists than wash and gos. I love the kiddie product because it helps me detangle my hair so much better and it's not real heavy